In the immortal words of William Shakespeare, “to thine own self be true”. Yet being true to who you really are and being comfortable in your own skin can be a lot easier said than done. If you don’t understand what I’m talking about, then consider being comfortable in your own skin is another way to say that you’re comfortable “with your own power”. I recently came across an article that shares some tips about how you can be comfortable in your own skin, listed below:
Being comfortable with your “own personal power” means that you can express your opinions, set your boundaries, direct other people and move about your life, all without fearing rejection. Fearing rejection means that you’re withholding your personal power, or your right to be just as you are. Fearing what what others think about you means that you’re giving unnecessary power for them to determine how you feel, what you do and even what you think on your own private time. Yet doing this leaves yourself powerless and subject to the whims of others.
It’s important to remember that such insecurities are all occurring based on your own projections; you’re making yourself powerless over what you believe about others, as opposed to the others themselves. Yet this is all your own projection, a false anticipation of some form of rejection. Maybe you’re withholding an opinion, dressing differently or saying yes to a favor simply because you’re worried about how they’ll react. More or less, being uncomfortable in your own skin is like anticipating rejection at every turn, with everything that you think, say and feel being subject to endless scrutiny and criticism. This is enough to make anybody uncomfortable in their own skin, and serves as a form of self-sabotage where you doom yourself to rejection before you even give others a chance to respond in the real world.
People are going to actually reject you in the real world, yet it doesn’t happen nearly as often as we fear. Yet it’s typically a lot easier to deal with occasional cases of actual rejection than deal with perpetual, self-inflicted anticipatory rejection of self-sabotage. You should begin to see your powerlessness as the powerlessness of self-sabotage as opposed to actual powerlessness. If you realize that it’s nothing more than self-sabotage, then you can imagine what life would be like if you stopped self-sabotaging. It’s here that your potential is the greatest.